tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post7441996888315588371..comments2023-09-06T07:38:48.877-04:00Comments on Mom of Three Seeks Sanity: Yes, I can!Mariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01869747946511793954noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-86300003036153765062010-05-21T22:18:26.114-04:002010-05-21T22:18:26.114-04:00I struggle with this. With saying yes to me. I hav...I struggle with this. With saying yes to me. I have a companion whom I love. I have children I adore. And I say yes to them (both directly and in all that I do for them) every day. But yes to me? I WANT to. I know that I NEED to. And yet. And yet. And yet. Tomorrow I am going to pick up new glasses for myself. A forced YES, as my current ones are broken and have been sitting crookedly on my nose for weeks. But. At least it's for me. New glasses. And, hey, I might even get my hair cut. Double yes this week? I might just try it. Thanks to YOU.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13969567138255166449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-83455669446255431152010-05-20T09:28:56.511-04:002010-05-20T09:28:56.511-04:00It is SO hard for me to say yes to myself. I KNOW ...It is SO hard for me to say yes to myself. I KNOW it makes me a better person, but then I have to deal with the guilt of it too. I need to say yes to myself way more often. Thanks for reminding me!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09826461333415234158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-89415805141459367302010-05-20T09:20:01.328-04:002010-05-20T09:20:01.328-04:00Some day I feel like I say "yes" to myse...Some day I feel like I say "yes" to myself TOO MUCH, and then others, I forget about myself altogether! It's a hard balance, but I agree: critical to our happiness and others!Liz Aguerrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465793815137696650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-33560060327278796852010-05-19T09:14:52.083-04:002010-05-19T09:14:52.083-04:00I still come last on my priority list, but at leas...I still come last on my priority list, but at least I am ON my priority list! I didn't used to be! A good point for us all to remember.TKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-36078829568938644252010-05-19T02:04:07.783-04:002010-05-19T02:04:07.783-04:00I've learned the hard way that I have to be on...I've learned the hard way that I have to be on the priority list, that the other people in the family are probably a little more stalwart than me. The kids are always happy; my husband is amazingly resilient and non-hormonal! But I am female and have a history of depression that can hit without warning. So what the mom needs she gets - whether it's exercise or a nice lunch with girlfriends.Linda Pressmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809808676659629555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-65686229683096141502010-05-18T20:22:26.238-04:002010-05-18T20:22:26.238-04:00Saying Yes to ourselves is so very important!! It ...Saying Yes to ourselves is so very important!! It makes a world of difference... if only we'd remember that more often!Corinne Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07604810312185816792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-54445124395685370092010-05-18T19:56:53.328-04:002010-05-18T19:56:53.328-04:00Amen to that, Maria! One of my favorite parts of ...Amen to that, Maria! One of my favorite parts of the book <i>Raising Happiness</i> was the author's reminder that parents need to "put on their own oxygen masks first" (which I came to think of as "if Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy"). And, like you, I'm not talking about ignoring the needs and wants of our kids and family, but we can't ignore ourselves either. For me, blogging - and the chance to connect with so many extraordinary women (like you!!) - has become a major source of oxygen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4112206767756851239.post-74824660089928325702010-05-18T18:49:24.425-04:002010-05-18T18:49:24.425-04:00"It has taken me a long time to realize that ..."It has taken me a long time to realize that yes to me means not being too hard on myself when I goof up, giving myself a little more credit than I usually do, and not feeling guilty when I do something that is just for me."<br /><br />This sentence sums it up. I think woman put too much of the burden on themselves when things go wrong. When things go right, they are willing to let others take credit. If we linger too long on something for ourselves, the guilt is paralyzing. I am always looking for a balance, but it is a constant struggle.Rudrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02892114592005195420noreply@blogger.com