While on the treadmill this afternoon, (Yes, be duly impressed. The only thing going to the gym the last few months have been my payments, not me...) I was watching an episode of Oprah that featured Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi. When asked what finally made her take the first step towards a relationship with Ellen after years of avoiding the inevitable, Portia said, "Love overcame the fear."
While many of us will never know the difficulties that same-sex couples face, we all can understand that statement. How many of us have had love help us overcome fear that inhibits us from being happy? How hard is it to overcome fear to get on with life? Is overcoming the fear worse than knowing that something better was out there, and we chose not to take the challenge?
For mothers, though, fear comes in all shapes and sizes.
Fear of becoming mothers.
Fear of becoming like our own mother.
Fear of making the wrong decisions.
Fear of being unappreciated, unloved, un-liked...the list is endless with possibilities.
Fear that paralyzes us. And when we are paralyzed by own fear and inadequacies; perceived or otherwise, we are useless to our children. We are useless to ourselves. Because the fear dissects what we could be, what potential we do have.
And love; love arms us for life.
Love for our children, for the lives we have chosen to live, helps us overcome the fear. It helps us get out of bed in the middle of the night to check on a feverish child. Love allows us to be there as our child is being wheeled into surgery with a reassuring smile on our faces while we tremble inside. Love emboldens us to fight for our children and those we love.
Love overcame the fear.
Four simple words; one powerful statement, that each of us can take to heart.
Four words that can help us guide how we live our lives.
One statement that can give us permission to take that first step into the lives that are ours to treasure, if we can be brave enough to claim it.